The Crucible of Change

The Crucible of Change

My Dear Sister, I’m coming to you from the crucible of change. This last month has been a rigorous but exquisitely orchestrated journey through my mother’s final days, the celebration of her life and the new frontier of life with her absence. More recently, it’s felt quite a bit like I’m tumbling through space without any moorings – unsure where I’ll land or who I’ll be when I get there. There’s no doubt this new unfolding will ultimately flower and bear fruit but for now I’m keeping things very simple. Impeccable self-care has been the order of the day. I listen closely to what my body, heart and Spirit need. Rest, healthy food, time outside and contact with friends are staples. I’ve cut out nonessentials and cut back on mindless time on social media. Its clear I’m in the midst of a total reworking of my relationships, roles and karmic threads with both parents; assisting the healing of my mother’s ancestral line; and going through a complete and utter transformation of Self. Having a regular practice of self care, reaching out for support and opening to the Sacred within and all around me has created a sense of ease and Grace through this very intense and sometimes challenging passage. It tenderized my heart and opened me to a larger stream of love. My family and I have been loved and supported in gorgeous and amazing ways throughout this journey. I am deeply grateful for all we have received and my ability to let it in wholeheartedly. I’ve been living what’s possible when we root deeply in our Sacred nature...
Sanctuary in the Storm

Sanctuary in the Storm

Hello My Dear, Are you having a full summer? Is life being kind to you? I’m at the start of two weeks away. A much needed trip to my favorite beach.   To be honest my summer has been plagued with uncertainty and Olympic levels of stress. One by one the pillars of my personal life have been shaken as I’ve watched each of those I hold most dear face terminal health issues or personal crises.   I’ve stood by and loved, listened, cared for, supported and came to recognize each of their fates was ultimately beyond my control. The ending of each of their stories was out of my hands. At times that feeling of powerlessness and uncertainty has felt brutal.   And other times absolutely absurd – just laughable – in it’s relentlessness and outrageousness. Like the day I was preparing to visit my mother with terminal cancer and father with dimenitia only to end up in the ER waiting to see if my husband’s chest pains were from indigestion or a heart attack. (Thankfully the former.) But that wasn’t clear until we sat in the unknown for a few hours waiting for test results.   At that point I was ready to pen a cease and desist letter to Universe. Like enough already!   At one time or another we all face seasons of stress, challenge or upheaval when it can feel like all we can do is show up and keep going as Life plays dodge ball with you.At those times it can be tempting to hunker down, engage our defenses and thicken our skin...
Are you managing the caregiving crunch?

Are you managing the caregiving crunch?

Dear Sister, Are you in the midst of the sandwich generation crunch? Feeling the demands of caring for parents as well as your own children. Or feeling pulled between career demands and family’s needs.  Sometimes our care and commitments to others draws heavily on us.     I just returned home to my husband and daughter after time away with my aging, out of state parents. The most apparent factor on both ends of my trip was a deep need for my presence.   As I felt the great need coming at either end I experienced some momentary trepidation. It felt so big – like it might consume me. I took a deep breath and felt an inner shift and subsequent re-ordering of my priorities.  I came into alignment with my love for them, my desire to be of service and I set aside my personal agenda.   That’s one of the gifts of the Sacred Feminine – our ability to stop on a dime, assess what’s needed and give care.   Sometimes we choose self-sacrifice in response to other’s need. Not that we are the only gender capable of that but it is common ground for us as women. We naturally hold a consciousness that comes from our innate tendency to care for the young, old and frail in the human family.   This is not the first time I’ve been called to set aside my desires and agenda to care for a loved one.  Maybe you can you relate?    Six years ago I set aside my personal goals and desires to support my daughter through a...
The Journey of Self Love

The Journey of Self Love

Did you know that February is Self Love Month?   Such an audacious concept if you were raised to be self-less and put everyone else first.   Or were taught you were worth-less.  Not as deserving of love, kindness or respect because you’re the wrong gender, size, color or sexual orientation.  Or you’re too sensitive, emotional, intelligent or different.   How do you begin to touch self love if you’re carrying a trash bag full of lies and stories around with you? When you’ve taken so many missteps already?   If your journey started anywhere close to the self-loathing and recrimination mine did it’s tough to jump headlong into self-love.  You may have to start with “permission” to love yourself as well as preliminary groundwork like self-acceptance, self-forgiveness and self-discovery before you can get there.   Make no mistake this is a journey worth taking. Your self-love is a beautiful blessing – bringing more love and light to a trouble human family.   While this is a journey you can only take for yourself it is so much easier when you open to support and guidance along the way.  With a loving mentor or friend holding the space you can begin to gently explore beneath all of the inner shoulds, outer projections and family and cultural baggage you carry.   You then learn to distinguish you from the lies, masks and misconceptions you’ve come to believe are you.  You gradually learn to accept and care for yourself. Eventually you come to recognize, appreciate and yes love the unique being that is you.   But to get there you have...
Sensual Pleasure: Our Sacred Feminine Legacy

Sensual Pleasure: Our Sacred Feminine Legacy

Hi Love, So we’re one month into the New Year, what have you been pursuing in 2016? I was lying on my dear friend’s massage table yesterday receiving the most exquisite facial. It was a gift to spend time with a soul sister and receive her caring, gentle touch. I felt so nurtured and it relaxed me from head to toe.  Not one shred of tension survived.   I was soft as jelly with a gurgling belly and all I could say was ahhhhh. It was so delicious. Especially after arriving wrapped tight for my appointment with my shoulders up around my ears from a day of hurried “to do’s”. That’s the power of sensual pleasure that comes when you slow down to the speed of digestion and respiration.   This year I am making a conscious choice to open to more pleasure.    In fact, my friend and I talked about that while I lay on the table. Early, in my spiritual path I recognized that each of the teachers I most admired all had meditation practices. With that recognition I began to practice meditation more consistently with very beneficial results. These days the teachers I most want to emulate are all women who are committed to self love and opening to sensual pleasure in their lives. While they experience it through different means they all place pleasure at the top of their priority list. And it shows in their radiant, full and vital aliveness. Even after a short while of making pleasure a priority I can feel the benefits it’s having in my body and my life....
New Year Blessings

New Year Blessings

Please click here to view the video.   In out-of-the-way places of the heart, Where your thoughts never think to wander, This beginning has been quietly forming, Waiting until you were ready to emerge.   For a long time it has watched your desire, Feeling the emptiness growing inside you, Noticing how you willed yourself on, Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.   It watched you play with the seduction of safety And the gray promises that sameness whispered, Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent, Wondered would you always live like this.   Then the delight, when your courage kindled, And out you stepped onto new ground, Your eyes young again with energy and dream, A path of plenitude opening before you.   Though your destination is not yet clear You can trust the promise of this opening; Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning That is at one with your life’s desire.   Awaken your spirit to adventure; Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk; Soon you will be home in a new rhythm, For your soul senses the world that awaits you.   ~ John O’Donohue   My Dear Sister,   A new opening and rhythm do indeed await you. And it is at one with your unique life desires. And this can be your year to receive it.   To assist you I have a New Year inquiry and additional resource to support you.   Just before midnight on New Year’s Eve my husband, daughter and I each created a list of what we wanted to leave behind in 2015....

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