Recognize the Gift

Recognize the Gift

When I listen to my sacred feminine soul today she whispers relax. Be easy with yourself. Receive the exquisite beauty of the green moss at your feet and the snow melting on the branch. She slows me down when I get ahead of myself and opens me to the invisible threads connecting me with all life. She guides and inspires me with my simple concerns and my hearts deep desires.    The sad thing is for years I was deeply ashamed of my essence even as she was woven into every fiber of my being. I believed it was my biggest problem – my sensitivity, my deep emotions, and my tender heart. Not to mention my body. It was messy and out of my control. It all made me feel weird and vulnerable. Like I could never quite fit in.   So I tried to cut her off and become what was applauded and approved of. I watched the contempt and denigration of the feminine in my home, my church and the world around me. I attracted people and experiences that trashed the feminine within me. I believed the lies and felt for years I’m not enough.    I learned to put on the mask and try to fit in to relationships and institutions that didn’t “get” me. Or see the value in my sensitivity or deep emotions. It left me feeling even more insecure and self-critical.   How about you? Do you struggle with self-judgment and doubt? Do you work to hold it all together yet feel unworthy or not enough deep inside? Do you look to others...
The Journey of Self Love

The Journey of Self Love

Did you know that February is Self Love Month?   Such an audacious concept if you were raised to be self-less and put everyone else first.   Or were taught you were worth-less.  Not as deserving of love, kindness or respect because you’re the wrong gender, size, color or sexual orientation.  Or you’re too sensitive, emotional, intelligent or different.   How do you begin to touch self love if you’re carrying a trash bag full of lies and stories around with you? When you’ve taken so many missteps already?   If your journey started anywhere close to the self-loathing and recrimination mine did it’s tough to jump headlong into self-love.  You may have to start with “permission” to love yourself as well as preliminary groundwork like self-acceptance, self-forgiveness and self-discovery before you can get there.   Make no mistake this is a journey worth taking. Your self-love is a beautiful blessing – bringing more love and light to a trouble human family.   While this is a journey you can only take for yourself it is so much easier when you open to support and guidance along the way.  With a loving mentor or friend holding the space you can begin to gently explore beneath all of the inner shoulds, outer projections and family and cultural baggage you carry.   You then learn to distinguish you from the lies, masks and misconceptions you’ve come to believe are you.  You gradually learn to accept and care for yourself. Eventually you come to recognize, appreciate and yes love the unique being that is you.   But to get there you have...
Sensual Pleasure: Our Sacred Feminine Legacy

Sensual Pleasure: Our Sacred Feminine Legacy

Hi Love, So we’re one month into the New Year, what have you been pursuing in 2016? I was lying on my dear friend’s massage table yesterday receiving the most exquisite facial. It was a gift to spend time with a soul sister and receive her caring, gentle touch. I felt so nurtured and it relaxed me from head to toe.  Not one shred of tension survived.   I was soft as jelly with a gurgling belly and all I could say was ahhhhh. It was so delicious. Especially after arriving wrapped tight for my appointment with my shoulders up around my ears from a day of hurried “to do’s”. That’s the power of sensual pleasure that comes when you slow down to the speed of digestion and respiration.   This year I am making a conscious choice to open to more pleasure.    In fact, my friend and I talked about that while I lay on the table. Early, in my spiritual path I recognized that each of the teachers I most admired all had meditation practices. With that recognition I began to practice meditation more consistently with very beneficial results. These days the teachers I most want to emulate are all women who are committed to self love and opening to sensual pleasure in their lives. While they experience it through different means they all place pleasure at the top of their priority list. And it shows in their radiant, full and vital aliveness. Even after a short while of making pleasure a priority I can feel the benefits it’s having in my body and my life....
Do You Feel Invisible?

Do You Feel Invisible?

My Dear Ones,   As a very little girl I used to watch the TV show, Romper Room.   Maybe you remember it or perhaps it was before your time. At the very end of each episode Miss Carol would look in her magic mirror and see all the boys and girls who were watching and she would call them out one by one. She would say, “I see Bobby, I see Susie, I see Sarah, I see Donna, I see Christopher,” and on and on.   Each time I waited expectantly and would then feel the let down as she never once said “I see Joni.”   So many of us carry that deep desire to be seen. And yet, sometimes like love – we look for that recognition or reception in all the wrong places. We seek it from people who are unable to see, appreciate or receive us. We long to be discovered but over time the risk of criticism, rejection or injury make it safer to blend in or remain unnoticed.   So we learn to hide our essential self.   Recently, my family and I traveled through Southern Utah. Tired and road weary we stopped for dinner at a touristy “all you can eat buffet.” Our waitress, Laura in her white button-down and black trousers was of an age, size and style that she could easily blend in and go unnoticed. As she took our drink order she saw my husband’s Stevia, a natural sweetener he uses in his coffee. She offhandedly told us a few facts about nontraditional ways you can use Stevia....
Claim Your Body as a Place of Sanctuary, Presence and Pleasure

Claim Your Body as a Place of Sanctuary, Presence and Pleasure

A Reminder from the Great Mother of us All.   “You and your body are a precious treasure- worthy of appreciation, care, respect and tenderness.”   Just for a moment, see if you can appreciate how, complex, beautiful and miraculous your body truly is. It’s not just a handy vehicle for your head or a means to an end.   It is a one of a kind, Sacred sanctuary for the mystery of Life expressing as YOU.     It is a storehouse for all you’ve witnessed, lived through and become in this life. It holds a unique and extraordinary wisdom. It is your vehicle, your personalized expression and your source of pleasure in all its forms: beauty, sensuality, exhilaration, tenderness, satiation, arousal, and ecstasy.   But to open to that pleasure you must fully bring your presence, your Being down into your body like gently setting your foot down into the soft, receptive earth. I find it to be a deeply feminine practice you can repeat, experiment with and spend your whole life enjoying.   As I practice coming fully into my own body and slowing down to experience the sensations of life within me it often feels like slipping into a warm and welcoming bath, which envelopes my Being and fills me with a gentle effervescent aliveness. After decades of actively avoiding living in my body it feels so delicious to finally come home.   All the emotional clearing and release of old habits of bodily neglect, disconnect and brutalization have been well worth it. It has taken me years to unwind the physiological defenses and unlearn...
Mamie’s Wisdom: Living with Ease

Mamie’s Wisdom: Living with Ease

“I believe every woman over 50 should stay in bed until noon.” First Lady, Mamie Eisenhower. A client recently shared this quote with me and I was so struck by it I had to find out more. From what I learned, Mamie had a dedicated practice of meeting her life and responsibilities with a relaxed and easy manner. She refused to get ruffled about anything; and she frequently began her business of the day, whether it be returning correspondence or ordering groceries from the comfort of her bed. She would emerge to meet the day come late morning. I was so inspired! Not only because she knew and lived the practice of ease – not unnecessarily pushing or whipping herself into a frenzy to meet the demands of her life – but more importantly because she valued herself enough to make supportive choices on her own behalf. Mamie got it. And this long before the expectations of women became the outrageous demands of today – to do and be it all perfectly while looking young, fit and sexy. We could all learn a little something from Mamie about how to practice more ease. How about you? Are you able to pace yourself? Relax and listen to your own needs for rest, support or more ease? Do you know what that looks like for you? Can you recognize you have needs and that you’re worth making yourself a priority? Do you know you have a right to consider what would make this task, or situation easier or more pleasant for you? You see, to the extent we can slow down...

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