Trial by Fire

Trial by Fire

We all have times in our life where it feels like we are experiencing a trial by fire. It may come as part of an anticipated transition in life, a purposeful letting go, an unintended consequence of a choice we’ve made, or it may catch us completely off guard and seem to come out of the blue. Often our impulse is to hunker down and wait for it to pass or fight it with all our might.   These times are never easy but they can be especially difficult when those around us seem to be sailing through life having an easy time of it. Or worse still when our challenges or struggles feel like a confirmation of some critical voice sneering that you really don’t deserve to be happy, it’s all your fault you’re in this mess, or really you’re just – take your pick: a loser worthless damned to a life of misery screwed But what we often can’t see or don’t realize is these times of trial and challenge are a necessary passageway to a new, larger, more full expression of you.  The trial acts like the fire forging the metal to temper and strengthen it. Or the butterfly that always requires struggle as it emerges from the cocoon to ever be able to fly.  If the struggle were removed it would be disabled. So if we can recognize there are times when our challenges and hardships are the gifts of fierce grace, which require a softening of our defenses to genuinely receive them. Sometimes you accomplish this best  by surrender and yielding to the ways...
Becoming Our Power

Becoming Our Power

There is an old Native American wisdom, which says “As young women we discover our power then through our bleeding years we practice our power, and with menopause we become our power.”   I don’t know about you but I find that idea more than a little intoxicating – all of us – girls and women discovering, cultivating, and becoming our power. The power we open to at our initiation into womanhood is our creative power. Not only the power to create new life but the power to create OUR life. To discover and claim who we are and set about making our distinct and unique contribution to this world. Oh, if it could be this straightforward and simple. Don’t get me wrong. It is getting better for our daughters and granddaughters but the world is still far from welcoming their power with open arms.  I’m not here today to rail against our culture or the treatment of women and girls in this world. We are all well aware of the imbalances and the problems that exist. I’m here to talk about what you and I can do about it by taking care of our little corner of the world. By tending to our own inner world-our own heart.   I want to share what I’ve learned to support you in becoming your power.   To begin with, we can stop using our power against ourselves and our sisters – but first and foremost ourselves. I have witnessed women slice themselves to ribbons and cut themselves off at the knees simply for being who they are – too much...

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